Chivalry vs Feminism

Some people or some friends would normally ask me what to do in cases or situation given. Though Im not the expert, I dont have the perfect relationship or even the perfect experiences as to dating and all, but several reading here and there can give one person the proper knowledge and so - called attitude.

       In the 1950s, the rules of dating etiquette were clearer. A man knew it was not only acceptable, but expected for him to open the door for his date, pull out her chair and pay for the meal. These days, the line between appreciated chivalrous acts and condescending behaviors is fuzzy at best. The feminist movement brought women the right to vote and earn equal pay, but it sure made the practice of dating more confusing in the process. It would be a dateless man indeed who didn’t acknowledge a woman’s right to make her own decisions when it comes to her life, her money, her body, and her mind; however, how do you reconcile that respect with the kind of attitude a man is encouraged to project on a date? When you’re initially getting to know a girl, it can be difficult to know whether or not she’ll see your actions as considerate or misogynistic.

The following are a few different situations that may come up during the beginning of a relationship viewed from perspectives on either side of the aisle: that of a well-intentioned, old-fashioned gentleman and an enthusiastic, empowered woman. Which opinion should rule in these ambiguous circumstances?

Picking up the tab

Gentleman’s perspective: It’s gentlemanly to pull out my wallet and pay, especially on the first date. It shows I am financially secure and goes a long way to making a good impression on my date.

Feminist’s perspective: As an empowered woman, I can pay my own way, thank you very much. The man reaching for his wallet is an indication that he thinks I can’t take care of myself.

Verdict: For the first few dates, at least, the guy should pay. If she isn’t a gold-digger, the woman should at least offer to pay, but until a relationship is established, the man should expect to be shelling out for meals, drinks and movies.

Lightening her load

Gentleman’s perspective: Opening the door for my girl or helping her carry her shopping bags is my duty as the stronger sex.

Feminist’s perspective: Call any woman “the weaker sex” and see how far that gets you. I am fully capable of opening my own doors and carrying my own bags.

Verdict: Instead of asking if it’s OK, just say, “Let me help you with those bags.” If she’s adamant that she doesn’t need your help, back off.

Performing manly tasks

Gentleman’s perspective: There are some jobs that men are still required to do. Mowing the lawn or fixing the car is a perfectly reasonable thing to do for her. She probably doesn’t know how to do them or doesn’t want to anyway.

Feminist’s perspective: These chores are not strictly for men. I am independent and intelligent enough to take care of these tasks on my own.

Verdict: If she knows how to do it, she does it, period. Don’t insist on doing a chore just because it’s “a man’s work.” Alternately, don’t shy away from teaching her how to do something if she shows an interest in learning.

Defending her honor

Gentleman’s perspective: If a woman is insulted by another man’s actions or words, I should step in and take over the situation.

Feminist’s perspective: I can fight my own battles. If someone offends me, I’ll take it up with them myself.

Verdict: It depends on the situation. If it’s a random catcall from a passing vehicle, it’s probably not necessary to do anything about it. If another guy pinches your date’s *ss in a club, you should step up and deal with the situation. In that case, you're not only defending her honor, but your own as well.

Ordering her meal

Gentleman’s perspective: I know what she’ll like, so I should go ahead and order for her.

Feminist’s perspective: I don’t think so!

Verdict: Feminists win here. This behavior is archaic and comes off as rude and condescending. Unless she asks for a suggestion, keep your opinions on her order to yourself.

Chivalrous confusion

It can be quite confusing to be a man in today's society, what with all the empowered women traipsing around demanding their independence, while chastising us for not being courteous enough to open doors for them. A general rule of thumb to keep in mind when dealing with the fairer (not weaker) sex: treat them as you would want them to treat you! Don't baby her or treat her like a child, simply be there for her as you would a good friend and everything should be fine.

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Impeccable All Day Long

It's not easy to stay looking impeccable all day - your foundation moves around, your mascara runs, and your lip gloss disappears before you even make it to work. That's why today I'm going to give you a few tricks that will help you to look impeccable all day long

-  Use a prebase Prebases make your foundation last all day and prevent shine. Using one adds another step to your makeup routine, but it's worth it. -  Set your foundation with powder You should set both your foundation and concealer with loose powder in the same shade as your foundation, or even better, translucent powder. This will help it set and it will last longer. -  Touch up Carry lip gloss (because it's inevitable that it will disappear), matte powder, blush, and a brush with you. Oh, and the most important thing - carry a concealer stick to touch up the inner corners of your eyes after lunch. This will erase any signs of circles that may have appeared throughout the morning. Got a 4-1-1 about Beauty Routine? Share your Chuckles.

 

On Being a Make Up Artist

Why did you decide on a career in the world of beauty and style?

I've always been attracted to the world of style and glamour. On a professional level, I've always focused on the importance of image, and I believe that you don't have to have a model's measurements to be stylish and flatter yourself. In my professional life, I love being able to help women transform themselves and make the most of what they've got, revealing a glamorous image independent of age or physical appearance. 

What do you like best about your career?

It's a profession with a lot of variety and creativity. There's never a dull moment! I love working with people, and the style and beauty industry continues to be at the forefront of innovation. It has a bright future...of course, it's also very glamorous and fun to work on fashion shoots. 

Tell us what a day in the life of a professional makeup artist is like.

No two days are alike for a makeup artist. One day you might be working on a fashion show making up twenty models using the trendiest techniques, another day you might be representing a cosmetics company at a stand, and on yet another you may be making up a bride for her special day. Except when filming TV programs or movies, the makeup and work required each day is a whole new challenge.

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To know more about Make Up Artist by definition,

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Make-up_artist

(You will also see Mitch Cabillon - Camaclang as the first filipina make up artist to be part of a VERIFIED article in Wikipedia)

To see some of her works:

http://mitchcabillon.multiply.com

and she is a member of http://www.glamph.com

A Good Note from Janine Schmenk

Questions to Ask When Hiring your Wedding Makeup Artist . . . and What Her Answers Mean

We all know the horror story the makeup artist wordlessly picks up a brush and starts to paint, occasionally pausing to say, “trust me, I’m going to make you look fabulous!”  You wait, nervously, as layers upon layers of product are applied to your face.  “Voila!” the makeup artist exclaims, turning you to face the mirror.  You stare in horror at your reflection, completely unrecognizable.  And with no time to wash it off, that is the face your groom will see at the end of the aisle . . .

Okay, so I’m being a little dramatic.  But as a wedding makeup artist, I’m here to tell you that when I see the happiness in a bride’s eyes after we create her wedding makeup look, I also see something else.  It’s relief, unmistakably, so I know this story existed somewhere at the back of her mind.  I want to free brides from fear, so you can confidently choose a professional bridal makeup artist who is right for you.  I put together the following questions to decide exactly that.

Questions to Consider . . .
What education/training did she receive?
No license is required to be a makeup artist.  That means that anyone can hang a shingle (or post a website) and open for business.  This makes it essential to find out your makeup artist’s qualifications.

Some makeup artists hold a license in cosmetology.  This means they can work in a salon doing hair, facials, waxing, mani/pedis, and/or makeup.  However, makeup training in this program varies.  One of the largest schools in Denver, Colorado has a year-long cosmetology program, where only one day is spent learning makeup!  Although a cos license doesn’t mean she’s had makeup training, working in a good salon may mean she’s had the opportunity to further her education with classes.  Be sure to ask.

Other indicators of education include training with a makeup brand, an apprenticeship with a professional makeup artist, or attending a makeup school.


What is her typical week like?
This question can give you a ton of inside information, without directly asking.  For instance, you can find out if this is her secondary part-time job, or full-time career.  You can also find out how much of her time is spent actually applying makeup, which will greatly affect her skill and experience.  An example: three makeup artists each say they have 8 years experience.  One works in a salon where she does hair, and books about 3 makeup applications a month when the salon’s primary makeup artist is busy.  The next makeup artist did her cousin’s wedding makeup ten years ago, & has done makeup for family and friends on occasion, when she’s not working as an accountant.  The last makeup artist worked as a retail makeup artist for years, seeing dozens of clients per day.  Now, she averages nine makeup lessons per week, two salon makeup classes and one photo shoot per month, and books about 30 weddings per year.  All three have been makeup artists for eight years.  Can you see the difference in experience?



How did he get started as a makeup artist?
If he started in film . . . chances are the makeup will photograph well, because he understands lighting.  But if he’s a special effects artist, he may not have experience with beauty makeup meant to be seen up close, and miss details or blending.  Take a peek at it in outdoor light to make sure.

If he started at a makeup counter . . . he will have lots of hands-on experience painting all different types of faces, and have extensive product knowledge. Be sure to ask about his training, though.  Some brands only look for retail experience and he may not have been trained on bridal makeup applications (or trained on makeup at all).

If he started in fashion/runway . . . he will know the trends and how to choose colors that work.  He will create your look to compliment your features, your dress, and the wedding style.  But if he’s used to working only with models, he may forget that you are there!  Make certain he starts with a consultation, and understands that your face is not a canvas, it is your FACE!

If he started out doing makeup on his little sister . . . that’s how Kevyn Aucoin, one of the best makeup artists ever, started too!  But unless his portfolio looks just as good, his career should have included some sort of training.


Is she asking you questions about yourself before she picks up a brush?
Every makeup application, bridal especially, should begin with a consultation.  And not a short one.  She should ask you to describe your current makeup routine: the products, colors, how & where you apply them.  Extra points if she asks you to come to the trial in your everyday makeup instead of with a clean face.  Think about it:  every bride wants to look, “like myself but better.”  So how is someone going to make you look like yourself if they don’t know what you usually look like?

Your makeup artist should also ask you what you want to look like on your wedding day, and really listen to your response before making suggestions.  She should then ask about the details of your wedding.  The location (indoor/outdoor) and time of day will make a big difference in the lighting in which you’ll be seen.  The colors, flowers, decor, and mood of the wedding will help to shape the makeup look (romantic? natural? vintage? modern?).  Finally, the dress MUST be considered by your makeup artist.  Not only will she need to see the color (warm vs. cool) and style, but the neckline, jewelry, & hairstyle will influence the application as well.

In summary, the more questions she asks, the more you will like it.  Beware of anyone following her “creative vision” without regard to your opinion.  At the end of the day, the only person who needs to like the makeup is you, the bride!


Who was his favorite bride?  And his least favorite?
If you ask “what types of brides do you work with?” every wedding makeup artist will tell you he can do any style, work with any person, blah blah blah.  And he should be able to.  But if you really want to know his m.o., ask him about his favorite bride.  Listen for cues that you are somewhat like her.  If he enthuses about how “laid-back” she was, and how “she let me do whatever I wanted,” and you know you  have a specific look in mind, it may not be a fit.  Similarly, if his least favorite bride angered him when she was 5 minutes late, and you don’t want to follow a strict schedule for your big day, that could be a red flag.


Do you like her?
This may seem obvious, but seriously:  this person will become a part of your wedding day.  She will most likely be in the room when you are getting ready with your bridesmaids, will be one of the first people to see you in your dress, and one of the last people you hug before you walk down the aisle (right after one last swipe of lip gloss.)  She doesn’t need to become your bff, but she shouldn’t give you the creeps either.  Even if her portfolio looks like a Vogue cover, if you don’t want to be around her, she’s not a good choice.
Choosing your wedding pros is a challenging task.  


Knowing what to ask can make the job easier and hopefully will chase away the nightmares!

Hiring a Make - Up Artist on your Wedding Day

(From an E-magazine article)

As less as ten years ago it would be almost unheard of for a bride other than a celebrity to have her own personal make-up artist on the wedding day. 

Now, due to the number of beauty consultants working on their own account, what used to be an expensive luxury is now considered by most brides to be a wedding day essential. The advantages of having your own make-up artist on the day are obvious. No rushing to and from the hairdressers on the morning of the big day and no last minute panics when something, inevitably, goes wrong.

Most people offering this service are fully mobile and will come to your home or wedding venue on the day, which means you can get ready at your leisure and actually enjoy the experience of being pampered just like a princess on your big day. It's generally a good idea to organise a make-up artist well in advance of the actual day. Most established artists will be in demand during the wedding season so booking as early as possible is an absolute must.

A few tips for successful wedding day hair and make-up

• Get recommendations from friends, your photographer and other wedding suppliers if they can suggest someone. Quite often they will have worked with several make-up artists before and will be best placed to make a recommendation.
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• Book your make-up artist at least 3 months before the big day and make sure they offer a full make-up trial.
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• Decide if your bridesmaids and other members of the wedding party will be having professional make-up too? Obviously if there are a number of people to look after on the day the price will reflect this but booking a group will be more economical than everyone making their own arrangements.
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• Look after your skin before the wedding date, drink plenty of water, get lots of fresh air and exercise. It really will show on the day.
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• On the day itself make sure your hair & make-up artist can work uninterrupted for as long as possible. The end result will be much better if your consultant is allowed to work unhindered by anxious mums and demanding bridesmaids.
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• Don't skimp on quality. Most professional beauticians will insist on using the best cosmetic materials. The reason for this is that most regular cosmetic brands are not good enough to last an entire day. A few extra pounds spent on quality cosmetics is seldom wasted.
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• Stick to the original script and don't ask for any last minute changes. The point of having a trial before hand is to get the perfect look rehearsed to a T. To veer from this well rehearsed script will often be unwise.
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• Have your make-up assistant on hand throughout the day if your budget will run to it - it's an extra expense that is seldom regretted. Failing this, make sure you have the essentials easily to hand for touch-ups as the day progresses
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Like all wedding planning tasks the essentials of successful wedding day make-up are in the details of planning and preparation. Do your homework and make sure you and your make-up consultant are singing from the same hymn sheet. Most importantly, have fun and enjoy your wedding day!

Eye Peepers

Creating a smudge-free eyes with the proper tools and its effect.
Which type best fit you.

RIMMED EYES
The Perfect Tool: A Kohl Pencil
Effect: A khol pencil smudges out nicely and gets closes to the eyes, making them look bigger.


SMOKY EYES
The Perfect Tool: An accentuating cream or what they call the gel liner
Effect: Its is the ideal base for shadow as you can easily smudge and blend them out.


CAT EYES
The Perfect Tool: An eyeliner pen
Effect: A felt-tip liner glides on and is ultra-easy to flick up at the outer corners.

Let me know what you think...Share a chuckles...

xoxo,

mitch camaclang

Drop Dead Gorgeous Lips

Have you been receiving compliments lately?

A lot of us i guess usually do get them because we either have a flawless or a porcelain look skin or that gorgeous locks or the new bob.

But oftentimes we would mess up our look with a wrong eyeshadow, blush and worst foundation application which would make us look like it was Halloween.

Let me share with you some products, quick - simple make up techniques moving forward. 

I am the type of person who would try and try out a lot of items that would work for me and for the job that i do ... - as a make up artist. And ended up with a lot of options out there. And Im loving them. 

Let's start then with giving you those opportunity of getting a compliment by having those Drop Dead Gorgeous Lips... (my fave make up thingamabobs, it wouldn't be my fave if i ain't got 217 different shades in my traincase right? oh make it 219, i just bought 2 again last friday from NARS. ;p)

My first installment would be.... (IMO-IMOD: in my opinion - in my own discovery)

The best brands of  lipstick:

IMO-IMOD - The best brand on the market are: MAC, Chanel, and Dior

MAC

Their best feature: their wide range of colors and textures. You can find any shade you want. My favorite is Ruby woo, an impressive matte fuschia. For the best buy (always sold out) and you can see them in every MUAs traincase, they have the Satin Pink Nouveau or the Amplified Girl About Town.

Chanel

Their best feature: their coverage and life-long classics. Don't miss their limited edition lacquered cases. Check out their lip palette for spring 2009 i hope they still have stocks left here in the country.

Dior

Their best feature: Dior Addict High Shine, hydration in lipstick form, the most moisturizing lipstick I have ever come across. Moisture and color in one. I'm sure your make up bag will beg for one.

PROFESSIONAL SECRET

If you're looking for coverage, go for MAC, without a doubt. If, on the other hand, you're looking for hydration, Chanel and Dior are your brands.

But don't forget babe, that your lips can tell all!

xoxo,

mitch camaclang

The Love for Color Artistry

It just feels good to know that someone trusted you and the craft that your into.
I've been inlove with make up ever since when i was kid ( i mean almost all of the make up artist in the world would say that). 
I have always been joining or the other way around always being ask to join beauty pageants, parades, princess role plays, town fiesta reyna since i can remember. hmmm? kinder perhaps? and eat bulaga's little miss philippines representing iloilo when i was 6.
but totally forgot about it when i stepped into highschool. 
Comes college when i get the chance to become part of ABSCBN Chalk Magazine's Official Student Correspondent, there comes a time where i get the chance to help out in a cover shoot where the make up artist was Barbi Chan partnering with top photographer Pat Dy. That made me fall in love with the craft. 
When i was working in the corporate world already, i was in a post where i would interact with big clients together with my boss almost in a daily basis. There comes a time too where i got all the ill-compliments from people around me in the most down time of my life (i would not go into that details anymore) and one big event came that signaled as a turning point for me, its time to take myself into Beauty School.


Every cent spent into Beauty School, every make up item bought is all worthwhile.
Its the craft i love most. My craving for learning new technique everyday doesn't stop. Getting yourself to fashion school will geared you as you step out into the real world of the business, so do not stop from learning, be open for feedback, new style, adapt what works for you until you come to realize that you have created your own style and stroke.


Be humble enough, and never burn your bridge, you wouldn't know one day who's gonna lend you an umbrella when its raining so bad.