Getting to Know You

Single parenthood and/or single mommy-hood by choice or by circumstances

will surely encounter whether we like it or not the question of

WHO IS MY DADDY?

WHERE IS MY DADDY?

or in my part WHO WILL BE MY NEW DADDY?

It sure do struck us that question and oftentimes we would avoid that question or tell our child a different answer.

Unless we are ready to answer that big Q, we can always ensure our child that just because it is only us mom alone who is raising them the love that they get is only half compare to other children who's family is complete with a Mom and Dad.

We, single mom (SM), will double the workload, double the effort and double the fun in creating beautiful memories and tight bonds with our child / children.

That's double the love we get and give as well.

And that's the most rewarding part.

Maybe what we can do best is to try to get to know our child on the level that of who they really are and not on what we expect them to be, to behave, to react or to grow up.

I was advised to try

to learn and observe them closely.

Get to know their wants and needs.

Like my son who is into cars, and I am very bad at these auto department. But I have to learn, I have to study them, so I can converse, relate and at the same time get to my son's level of curiosity, knowledge about cars.

From the type and model to year release even to the current cost price, the motor power and speed.

I am getting there, he still know more than me and at time he is teaching me about cars but hey this "The New Single Mom" (TNSM) is somehow now well-versed about cars compare to before which is zero knowledge. 

Get to know your kids, and never control your kid/s on how they think, how they react, how they should adapt to this new chapter of your lives. Yes they are part of this single life journey as well.

Tell them I am your mommy and at the same time I can be your Daddy and it's gonna be double the fun baby.

Trust me you get the trust, the deep bond and connection with your child if you get to know them more. 

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